Parenting is hard and messy. Today, let’s focus on the messy part.

It doesn’t get much messier than POTTY TRAINING!!!! In my long 2 years and six months of parenting I can honestly say the most frustrating thing for me (so far) has been this. I’ve put a lot, and I mean A LOT of time and energy into reading, thinking about and trying ways to potty train my toddler.

I feel like I can officially say we’re there (and have been for about 2 months!) HUGE WIN!

So I’d like to share some of my tips with any other parents out there who are desperate for some help on the bathroom front.

1. MOST IMPORTANT THING- your child has to be ready. This may be earlier if you’ve been practicing “elimination communication”, use clothe diapers, practice open door policy etc but ultimately it is on your toddler’s terms.
2. Open door policy? I.e. let them see you go and I mean ALL THE TIME. Include them in the flushing etc and explain everything you are doing. You are on display yes, but if you have a toddler, let’s be honest, you know that’s already the case.
3. Books on pooping-oh so helpful. There are so many out there, I’m sure you can find one that fits your family.
4. Reward system- as a health nut, I do suggest you stay away from candy, however there are tons of other tasty treats.
5. Positive feedback. Your children want you to be happy and proud of them. YOU are your child’s world. Give them major high fives, hugs, smiles and focused attention on the potty (when they go). Be kind and gentle about true accidents as well.
6. Use a little potty or an insert potty so your toddler literally feels supported.
7. Cool underwear. Favorite animals, cartoon characters etc (encourage your little not to pee on his or her “favorite….”)
8. No underwear outside. If it’s summer or warm and you’re comfortable with them going in your yard and at the park this is such a great middle step to get them comfortable with how things work.
9. When you’re ready to go cold turkey, I suggest a great new cool water bottle that will get them drinking a lot of water. A lot of fluids in means a lot of fluids out. Therefore, you both gets lots of potty practice in a short amount of time.
10. PATIENCE of the parent. Sit with them while they’re trying. Make the toilet a fun and safe place.

Signs your toddler is ready (remember #1?):

1. Telling you he is
2. Seeking privacy to go in his diaper
3. Tell you when he went
4. Expressing increased curiosity about bathroom activities
5. Asked to be changed more/less frequently

Well there you have it. Nothing earth shattering but I promise these are the best combined tips from reading tons of random advice on the the topic. Best of luck to you and happy pooping to your toddler!!